What Makes a Marriage Work?

Yes, opposites do attract, however the marriages that work the best are with couples who have similar values, beliefs and interests. That's not to say you should marry a carbon copy of yourself - that would get boring and tedious very fast - (truly, how many of us want to marry ourselves?), but having a mate that we know will work toward the same goals and has the same values, will go a long way in keeping your marriage intact.

Having separate interests is also a big plus. While is wonderful to spend a lot of time together, it's the quality that counts, not the quantity. True, there are many couples who enjoy being together day and night but having some time apart is good for the majority of couples. It gives you new and fresh outlooks on your lives, not to mention giving you both something to talk about that's apart from your daily lives and interests.

Of course, it goes without saying that communication is probably at the top of the list. Being able to discuss dreams, goals and what's in your heart is very important, as well as having someone who will listen closely to what you say and having some empathy as to how you feel. That's not to say that your partner wants to hear constant complaints about one thing or another. Yes, we all need "a shoulder to cry on" occasionally, just don't make a habit of it.

Intimacy is also a very important part of keeping a marriage alive and happy. And intimacy doesn't mean just sex. Being close, holding hands, relaxing in each other's arms, speaking of your hopes and dreams of the future, helps to build a close relationship and trust of your partner.